I’ve been a dad for about 5 days, which obviously makes me an authority to write articles on being a dad. I’m unsure about my authority on dad-hood (yet). But I’m also now unsure of my authority on nearly everything I knew about myself before the arrival of little Ruby Lee Holmes, too. Ruby isContinue reading “THOUGHTS ON BECOMING A DAD”

Making Sense of Suicide

I woke up this morning to a torrent of tweets paying tribute to Anthony Bourdain. My first thought was a defiant “NO.” My second thought was, “why?” My wife and I have seen every episode of Parts Unknown, No Reservations, The Layover and all his other lesser known stuff too. We’d been fans for aContinue reading “Making Sense of Suicide”

How To Do A Relationship Checkup

Last week my 2005 Saab 9-3 broke down. I was indignant. “How could my 12 year old Swedish car with 110,000 miles on it break down? I can’t believe this!” My indignation turned to pensive sorrow as I watched my not-so-faithful Saab disappear into the sunset, on a flatbed truck. I waved goodbye, and wonderedContinue reading “How To Do A Relationship Checkup”

6 Ways To Guard Your Relationship Against Negativity

Think about a coworker you like very much, someone you enjoy. We’ll call her Sara. Now think of Sara as she walks by in an angry huff and says, “Leave me alone.” What would your initial reaction be? If you really do enjoy Sara, you’d probably think, “I hope she’s ok. She must be havingContinue reading “6 Ways To Guard Your Relationship Against Negativity”

No One Can Shame You, But You

Today my hairdresser called me an old soul, which is absolutely true. By it, I think she means I enjoy time alone, I enjoy reading and quiet and talking. I like real conversation, real relationship, real people. I prefer on-on-one as opposed to large groups, and some Friday nights, I’m perfectly happy at home withContinue reading “No One Can Shame You, But You”